Why Willpower Fails (and What to Do Instead)
We’ve all been there: “I overate today… I’ll start again tomorrow.”
This cycle of relying on willpower feels familiar — and frustrating. While it might help carry us through a few tough moments, willpower is limited. It quickly wears thin when we’re tired, stressed, or emotional. The truth is, discipline alone isn’t enough to sustain long-term change.
So what truly works?
Small, repeatable habits.
Why Small Habits Matter
Habits build structure. Unlike willpower, which relies on motivation and mood, habits become automatic over time. They reduce decision fatigue, making it easier to stick with your goals even on tough days.
Habits You Can Build Around Eating
🍽️ Before You Eat
- Pause and ask yourself: “Am I actually hungry, or just bored? Or I’m using food as an emotional outlet (stress, frustration, sadness, etc)?”
- Keep water nearby — hydrate first before reaching for a snack. Our brain is 75% wate— sometimes, that ‘hunger’ is just a dehydrated, grumpy asking for a sip.
More often than not, what feels like hunger is really just something else. That’s why it’s important to recognise the difference between true physical hunger and emotional or habitual eating, so we can respond with intention instead of impulse.
🧠 During Meals
Did you know that thoroughly chewing your food more can actually help you feel fuller and more satisfied? The act of chewing gives your body and brain time to recognise that you’re eating, which helps with appetite control. Try these mindful habits during your meals to prevent overeating!
- Eat mindfully: slow down, chew well, and savour the food. Avoid looking at your devices while eating!
- Make meals slightly more effortful — choose “harder-to-eat” foods (e.g., corn on cob instead of corn kernels, whole fruits instead of juices, etc.).
- Add a big side salad to increase fullness without the added calories.
Bonus tip:
To feel more satisfied with your meals, minimise intake of ultra-processed foods – which are mostly designed to be super easy to chew and almost too enjoyable. Think of chips, nuggets, or milkshakes — they go down fast, and it’s easy to overeat without even realising.
Instead, try choosing more whole or minimally processed foods that take a bit more time to chew — like fresh fruits, vegetables, grains, or whole cuts of meat. These foods not only give your body more time to register fullness, but they also tend to be more nutritious and less calorie-dense. It’s a simple habit that makes a big difference!
🍰 When Eating Out
Eating out is inevitable in our day and age, especially for social gatherings. While outside foods tend to be more indulgent and less nutrient-dense, it does not mean we cannot enjoy them while on our weight loss journey! Try these tips to enjoy your food while also staying on track with your goals.
- If you’re ordering something indulgent, balance it with a lighter option. (e.g. pizza + salad, curry laksa + cucumber acar, nasi lemak + young coconut water with flesh)
- Share your dessert or side dishes.
Shape Your Environment for Success
- Keep healthy snacks visible and easy to grab.
- Limit buying junk food, and only buy it if you plan to share.
Meal Prep — But Make It Work for You
You can:
- Batch cook meals ahead, go for recipes you’re familiar with and slowly level up your cooking.
- Component prep (e.g. cooked grains, proteins, chopped vegetables to mix and match)
- Or assemble meals from healthy store-bought items. (e.g. pairing store-bought salad with take-away chicken rice)
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The Most Important Habit: Your Mindset
Progress isn’t about perfection.
Some days you’ll overeat, skip a workout, or stray from your plan — and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean you’ve failed.
Success is about what you do next.
Be kind to yourself, learn from the slip, and keep going. Real change comes from consistency, not control.
Conclusion
You don’t need superhuman discipline to reach your goals — you need a system that works for you. Start with one or two small habits, then let them build over time. And when things don’t go as planned, remember: self-compassion, not shame, fuels long-term change.
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